thefrisky:

Treat. Yo. Self. Yes, I had to go there. If you’re lucky enough to have access to gift certificates or funds for a massage or other spa service, do it. The healing power of human touch can’t be underestimated, and if you’re not in a relationship, it’s emotionally dicey (if not downright unwise) to get down with someone just for a little creature comfort, especially if your wounds are still fresh. However, if you can spring for it, a painful Swedish massage can help; plus, it’s totally normal to cry while someone squeezes your muscles like dough. If you can’t afford it, DIY. A hot bath full of Epsom salts is cheap as hell, and a little lavender oil in the water can do wonders. Straight essential oils can be bad news for sensitive skin, but sometimes I put it on my wrists, temples, and, yes, just inside my nostrils to relax. You can even steep some bags of chamomile tea in there with you. A heating pad is your friend, and back massagers really do massage backs.

I lost my dad 2 Christmases ago, so I can relate.